How to Avoid Wedding Dress Neurosis

In our perfectionist culture, one word jumps out about brides to be and the search for the perfect wedding dress: NEUROSIS. Here's how to find a dreamy dress without going nuts.

1. Give yourself plenty of time

Unless you are buying from a discount store, you won't find your style and size in hanging stock. All designer bridal dresses are sold of a pattern - the salon sample. Delivery time will take from six weeks to six months. Many women buy the dress first to get this chore out of the way as well as establish the tone for the rest of the celebration.

2. Be comfortable in your skin

There is no dream wedding dress for the woman who is unhappy with how she looks. Lips to hips, being critical of oneself is the perfect set up for neurosis. When you are focusing on your flaws, or trying to hide them, nothing will work. So before you begin shopping, take lots of deep breaths and give that reflection in the mirror lots of acceptance.

3. Go with an open mind

The average bride looks at 100 dresses before she makes up her mind. 100 dresses. In many cases, she has a specific look in mind. Fashion is all about revealing the inner you. Having a mental picture that you can't articulate, as in "I'll know it when I see it," can send you around a mental bend. Be prepared to try on lots of dresses in a wide range of styles regardless of the price. Who knows? Maybe there's an inner you even you haven't met yet.

4. If you're buying a bargain online, know your measurements.

Forget what size you wear. Sizing compared to street clothes runs small. Sizing from one designer to the next is not standard. Better brands run especially small. It's ridiculous. In the full service salon, a professional consultant will measure you so your dress will the right size. Then it will be tailored to fit perfectly. If you want to take advantage of online bargains or sample sales, know your measurements. Pick a dress bigger than you are and have it tailored to fit. More tips on fitting here.

5. Plan and budget for alterations

Yes, even when you order your designer bridal gown from the manufacturer, you will need alterations. Simply put, no body is perfect.

6. Relax and enjoy the trip

Remember that your wedding day is a celebration and the best party you'll ever give. The dress you wear is merely a reflection of your happiness, not who you are. Weddings, like life are a journey, not a destination.